David Stuart

david.stuart@me.com

Daily Emailing commitment plan

An invitation.

Message me once a week, with 2 sentences

  1. I commit to not using for the coming weekend, and the next seven days”.

And

  1. The reason I'm doing this; the thing that's keeping me motivated is...” Try to be affirmative, rather than negative; eg; “I’m motivated because I don’t want to die” but “I’m motivated by a desire to live”.

 

Do this every week, same day. This is the contract we agree.

I will respond every week. I commit to that.

Because I have many dozens of people signed up to this contract ,and because we want this to be a boundaried and safe correspondence, I ask that you just stick to the two sentences; that you do not elaborate, do not message me when high on drugs or after drinking alcohol; just keep it simple and focused on the two sentences (plus the “change of contract” message, if that becomes the case).

That’s the contract.

 

  1. Important addition to this contract; if you want to change the contract; if you decide you do want to do drugs… that’s cool; it’s your decision. But let’s make a contract that IF you do, you.. email me first. Commit to 30 minutes of reflection, considering the consequences of this choice. (This brief video explains this)

Then email me.

Tell me “Hi David; I’m changing my contract; I’ve decided to do drugs today. I’ve thought about it, reflected upon it; I considered how I’ll feel tomorrow, I’ve considered the cost, I’ve considered other consequences… and I choose to change the contract/do drugs today”

I won’t argue with you, I’ll kindly just acknowledge that you’ve changed the contract.

The purpose of this is so there is no ‘failure’, no dishonouring of the contract. When people betray their contract, lapse into drug use, they often feel awful, and that sense of ‘failure adds up, compounds, and becomes a hindrance to the work we are doing together. So spending 30 minutes reflecting on the choice to use drugs, considering the consequences, considering tomorrow morning, and then emailing me a change of contract… means they are not breaking the contract, and there is no sense of failure.

 

If you choose to accept this offer; let me know. It’s a big commitment, but it can be very helpful to those who are feeling like they are losing control of the CHOICE to use drugs.

Email to david.stuart@me.com

Happy to help